Relationships are not easy,as scores of movies and mushy novels would testify.over the years i have had lots of time(on account of being a self professed loner) ,to ponder why they are so difficult.I have come to the conclusion that its difficult mostly for people who think a lot.
Ayear back a marwari friend of mine got married. He was all of 22 years.His parents chose the girl for him.He was educated and sauve and(as superficial as it may seem) spoke english with the fluency inherent of a city lad.I met his wife and was shocked to see that she had the sophistication (or the lack of it), one would associate with women from rural North India, majenta lipstick and all. (*i know i am being rabidly biased and politically incorrect as it can be. sorry if any one is offended but im just sounding my thoughts)i wondered how they can have even remotely common interests. But there was'nt even a trace of regret or "I've been forced into this marriage by my parents for cold marwari moolah" kind of look on his face. He was genuinely happy. Over the year we have lost touch. But i'm sure he is just as happy as ever.Was it genuine trust in his parents to find the perfect match for him that made him say yes.Or was it total lack of ability to articulate his thoughts regarding what sort of a life partner he wants.
Cut to the present. Here i am educated, articulated, knows exactly what i want in a life partner right down to how her relationship with my family should be,And in all these well informed-ness i fail to see the possibilty of a relationship working on a not so perfect terms.
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